Convey to your partner that you want to have sex, without actually using the words.

If your partner does not initiate sex, it does not mean that he/she doesn't want to have sex. He/she might be shy or just not vocal about what she really wants. Make use of the following signs to get her/him into the act.

• If you are a woman, wear sensual lingerie to evoke him.
• Bathe and come out in wet hair and a nicely wrapped coat. You partner is ought to leave his work and get on to you!
• Use black or red silk sheets to raise the libido drive of your partner.
• Talk dirty or make dirty and naughty gestures. Actions speak louder than words
• Feel each other. It's not always about getting on each other in one go. Touch his hands, hug her tight when she is sleeping, caress him/her and you are done.

Men, read on. It's also important to know the right 'spots' that will arouse her instantly:

1.  A woman's back is one of her most sensual spots. Make the ambience dark, play some good music and give her a nice rub or a massage. See what happens next.
2.  Play with her ears. Whisper something. P.S Don't whisper 'I want to make out.'
3.  Tickle her on the neck and she'll be instantly aroused.
4.  Give her a foot massage and you'll indirectly prove your tenderness.

It's all about being soft, sensuous, tender yet naughty. Sometimes the process is more important than the climax.

-TOI